Where are you planning to get married? It’s a huge choice to make between you and your partner with the biggest choice on not just the location of the wedding but the venue of the ceremony, with the main challenge deciding whether to go for a traditional wedding, or a non-traditional wedding.With that said, let’s look at which you should choose for your big day.
Firstly let’s look at traditional. The staple of wedding venues since weddings began. You see it in all the TV shows, films and the dreams of anyone dreaming of their wedding day since they knew weddings were a thing. The grand churches in the UK are spectacular, with beautiful stained glass windows, idyllic church yards and of course the incredible interior. It makes it seemingly the perfect location to get married. Just imagine. All your friends and family gathered to watch your big day play out and to celebrate your love.
Of course the most obvious and very valid question is are you allowed to get married in a church, under a Christian vicar. And the answer of course is yes. With the law changing allowing same sex couples to get married with no conflict, churches can marry same sex couples. However the keyword in that last statement is can. Vicars are allowed to turn away couples if they want. No matter if they’re a same sex couple or a traditional couple, vicars can reject a couple to get married in their church. This includes rejecting you because you’re a same sex couple as they’re protected by the law in regards to their religious beliefs.
Of course you can’t lose heart if a vicar rejects you and your fiancé. It’s not worth getting mad or angry that a church won’t let you get married there as they are within their
right to turn you down (even if it is justified). The main thing to take under consideration if looking at a traditional wedding is not to get your heart set on a venue as it could come back to bite you.
On the other side of the spectrum is the non-traditional venue. This has come to prevalence in recent times as trends have shifted and the religious views of the population has changed. Like the traditional wedding, the non-traditional side has it’s pros and cons. The main selling point is of course that you can mould the ceremony into yours and your other halves vision of a perfect day.
This goes for things such as not having hymns throughout the ceremony, very personal vows that mean a lot to you the couple and having a close friend or family member
officiate the wedding over a vicar. These little touches can change your wedding from something you see on a soap opera to something unique to you and your partner. The only con really is finding the right place. Hotels are great as you can have a ceremony and reception all in the same place as well as a place for all your guests to sleep that night without worrying about getting back home or not getting too drunk to drive back. But then again, do you really want other guests at the hotel potentially crashing your big day? Just something to keep in the back of your head.
In conclusion it’s all about your preference to where you get married. Both sides have their benefits but then again they do have their draw backs with each. It’s just a matter of not getting your heart set on a venue that might reject you or it not working out due to price or anything else such as people crashing the reception. In short, don’t lose hope, keep an open mind and you’ll find the perfect venue.